Quiz: Are You Being Your Best You?
Nobody’s perfect. In fact, you’re fine exactly the way you are! But everybody has room for improvement -- it’s a never-ending journey. Take this quiz to find out if you’re giving it your all ... or not so much.
Nobody’s perfect. In fact, you’re fine exactly the way you are! But everybody has room for improvement -- it’s a never-ending journey. Take this quiz to find out if you’re giving it your all ... or not so much.
At some time or another, you’ll surely have to deal with the discomfort of “the friendship triangle.” Put three girls together and, well, it almost always spells triple t-r-o-u-b-l-e! Here, we take a brutally honest look at this friendship dynamic.
You’re the odd girl out
You’re the one being excluded? Bummer. It never feels good when you think you’re gonna have a good time with the girls and then find yourself tossed aside like a spare wheel. So ya know what? It’s this simple: Remove yourself from the situation. Call a parent to pick you up, go to another room, put on your ear buds -- whatever you’ve gotta do to ignore these meanies.
You’re not having fun, right? So why stick around and endure any more of their bad behavior? You could try to hang out with these two again another time, but if they continue to treat you like an outsider, it’s time to ice them out until they’re ready to play nice (if they ever are!).
You’re the instigator
OK, be honest: Are you the leader in this three-ring circus? Are you influencing one friend to oust the other? If so, stop that right now. Fact is you might think you’re in charge, but you’re actually completely out of control because you don’t even recognize what’s really going on -- which is that you are jealous.
Yep, we said it. You feel threatened, and so you’re turning your insecurities around on someone else. But you’d better rethink your actions. You see, the thing about friendship triangles is that they’re ever-shifting. It could all change tomorrow when it’s your turn to be the odd girl out (see above).
You’re stuck in the middle
So you’re good friends with both of these girls, but they’re just not hitting it off. First of all, do not let the instigator (above) influence you into ganging up on your other friend. It’s just wrong. You chose to be friends with both girls, so don’t be put in a position where you’re expected to pick sides.
Look, it is not your job to be the mediator -- so don’t even try. If these two refuse to get along, the advice here is similar to that we gave for the odd girl out: Walk away. Then hang out with Friend A and Friend B on separate days -- and refuse to get sucked into their drama!
Every girl wants to be popular, right? You want to be liked by as many people as possible. But popularity is about being fantastic, not plastic! Here, we lay down the myths and truths about popularity so it all makes way more sense.
Myth: Popularity is about looking a certain way.
Truth: Be active!
Being popular is not about how you look, what you wear or which handbag you carry. If you want to get to know a lot of kids who are into the same things as you are, get involved in lots of activities. Join a club. Try out for a sport. Audition for the school play. If you’re hanging out in lots of different circles, you’re going to get noticed. For sure!
Myth: Being popular means acting like the cool kids.
Truth: Be yourself!
When you do start circulating, be sure you’re signing on for stuff that genuinely interests you. Don’t go out for basketball or run for class treasurer just because you want to hang with a certain group. Do it because it’s something that really gets you stoked!
Myth: Popular girls always run in exclusive cliques.
Truth: Be friendly!
OK, some girls tend to run in groups from which they exclude others. But gals like that are actually insecure and are trying to give off the illusion that they’re better than everyone else. If you want to be well-known by lots of different kids, never act like you’re too good to be seen with anyone in particular. Show that you’re open to being friends with anyone who’s nice and fun to be around.
Myth: To be popular, you have to follow the pack.
Truth: Be confident!
If you’re acting like a clone, you’re not being true to yourself. Know who you are, do what you like and develop your own personal style. Nothing makes you stand out from the crowd more than giving off a vibe that screams, “I’m unique, and I’m proud of it!” Do it fearlessly. Imagine it’s like ice-skating: When you’re afraid you may fall, you usually look klutzy. When you skate with confidence, you glide along with grace! And so it is with popularity.
Yes, we so know there are days teachers overdo it when piling on the homework. And you’ve heard all the typical homework tips -- no TV, good lighting, take breaks. But homework stress can be all but demolished with good time management. Make smart use of your time -- so you can actually carve some out for chillaxing. Really!
Homework Wrecking Ball No. 1: Find out where you're wasting time
Those 10 minutes at the end of lunch and 20 minutes on the bus could equal a half hour of required reading. College students have this trick down! They read while waiting in line for coffee, on the train and in the few minutes before the teacher hasn't got things underway yet. It adds up, so find and use these little pockets of time.
Homework Wrecking Ball No. 2: Ditch the “home” from homework
While some schools provide study period, waaaay too many students see this as the opportunity to do each other's hair or nap. If your school doesn’t offer study hall, head to the library after dismissal. You’ll be more inclined to concentrate on your work so you can get it done -- and get on home!
Homework Wrecking Ball No. 3: Create a homework task calendar
Whether you prefer to go paper or digital, it’s important to keep your assignments straight. It’s hard to ignore an in-your-face mounted wall calendar. Write every due date down in the same place while at school. Then, transfer that info to your calendar at home. Color-code it to show tests, quizzes, essays and other assignments. Now you'll know what's due when, with no surprises.
Homework Wrecking Ball No. 4: Tackle the tough stuff first
Some homework assignments are for classes where you don't have to try so hard. Others you can barely understand when the teacher is actually explaining the stuff! Decide what you can breeze through, and bump that to the end of your study session. Getting the more challenging tasks out of the way takes the overwhelming sting off even the longest of homework laundry lists -- and keeps you from dragging. When you get to the easy part, it's just ... easy. Done and done!
Sure, you’ve got your school supplies covered -- notebooks, three-ring binders, No. 2 pencils. Those are easy. But what about the rest of the stuff you need? Don’t worry: We’re on the case!
What to Wear
Even if your school requires uniforms, you’ll want to look put-together after dismissal and on weekends. Here are the 10 mix-and-match items you must have in your closet this fall:
1. Military-style lace-up boots that are clunky and chunky
2. Zip-up hoodie in a muted gray or khaki
3. Lots of solid-color, long- and short-sleeve scoop-neck tees for layering
4. Dark-wash jeans that fit but are still a little baggy (roll ’em up!)
5. Brown or black leather belt to wear with jeans or to cinch dresses
6. Cardigan sweater in a bright color or a pastel (bonus: get one with ruffles or appliqued details)
7. Button-down tunic that can be worn as a shirt or dress
8. Solid-color leggings and striped socks (try wearing them together!)
9. Brown or camel-color peacoat, either solid or plaid
10. Knit cap and scarf set in colors that complement your wardrobe
Stuff Your Backpack
Smart girls have necessities that go beyond the school supplies stashed in their backpacks and lockers. Here’s our list of never-leave-home-withouts: (They’ll come in handy, we swear!)
1. Tampons and feminine pads (just in case)
2. Fresh, clean underpants (ditto)
3. Spare, neutral-colored sweatshirt for days it’s colder than you expected
4. Safety pins to quick-fix clothing tears, popped buttons and broken zippers
5. Granola bars for when your tummy goes “grrr” way before lunch period
6. Deodorant and breath mints so you don’t repel the boy you’re trying to attract
7. Headbands, barrettes and ponytail elastics (plus a brush or comb) for bad hair days
8. Compact mirror so you can fix hair and check for stray food in your teeth
9. Toothbrush and toothpaste in case something is stuck in your teeth (er, braces?)
10. Lip gloss (duh)
Get Back in the School Mindset
Yeah, the lazy days of summer are coming to an end. Sorry! Time to shake that do-nothing ’tude and get back into full swing. Hey, it’s not so bad -- just do these five things, and you’ll be ready to go:
1. Rise and shine! Set your alarm a little earlier each day so you’re not draaaaaaagging yourself out of bed that first day of school.
2. Read something. Check out a book from the library (even a romance novel will work!) to get your brain back in action.
3. Go for a new do. Get a fresh haircut (bangs are in!) or just play around with pulling your hair into a loose bun or cute braids.
4. Smell good. Try a soft-scented body wash or spritz. Something light -- maybe floral or fruity -- is great for daytime. Steer clear of strong, heavy perfumes.
5. Smile! Even if you’re dreading going back to school, force yourself to crack a grin. It’s the best way to make new friends this school year.